Worthy

One of my favourite things to talk about is value. I honestly believe that so many broken hearts and confused minds could've been avoided if some of us truly understood our value and the value that God placed on us while he was knitting us in our mother's womb.

Notice how our value wasn't placed after we got 100% or became the sports captain or got that persons attention. Our value was placed on us before we could even open our eyes, our value was placed before we could even speak.

Growing up I was quite insecure, I desired attention from people and wanted their approval,

I would change up different parts of my personality to be likeable to people, I was loud and outgoing and craved validation from the popular kids. In the moment I thought I just wanted to be liked, different, important and seen but looking back I truly was just an insecure girl who didn't know her value and would chase after anything to make myself feel more loved. I really believe I would've stayed there if it wasn't for my family my friends and my church. I think its really funny when people say "how are you still in church, I grew out of it" or that I don't have a life because of the church, Jesus is the reason I have life, my relationship with Jesus is the reason I don't struggle as much with identity and value. There's a whole lot of people out there searching for their value and struggle to find it because the answer isn't in your popularity, sexuality or in how many people find you attractive. Your value is not determined by the affirmation you receive, your accomplishments or your status. Your value was given to you as you were being knitted together in your mother's womb. Your value was woven into your God-given DNA, so because your value remains constant and independent of external factors, let's stop allowing those factors to dictate how we see ourselves. God loves you, he chooses you and he values you regardless of whether you reach societies standard.

Jesus said, "Everyone who drinks this water will get thirsty again and again. 14 Anyone who drinks the water I give will never thirst - not ever. John 4:1-42

The well of validation, achievements, affirmation will never be enough to quench the thirst we have but thankfully we have a father who is a fountain of life.

It's easier said than done right? K cool Ken, you say God gave me value but then why doesn't it feel like it? Why do I pinpoint every insecurity, dwell on every regret and am unable to believe that I'm valuable? Because it's a lifestyle we've cultivated - we grew up believing our 100% makes us valuable, having a boyfriend makes us beautiful and important, having tons of friends makes us interesting and worth knowing. Let's break that cycle - let's chose to deliberately see ourselves as valuable in the midst of failure, let's speak the truth of scripture over ourselves instead of the lies of feelings, let's find our value in the creator's eyes and not the worlds.

So here's some homework :

1. Find out what God says about you by - reading your bible, listening to worship music, asking God etc

2. Once you find out, speak it over your life daily

3. Go back to it when you doubt

And I know, it's way easier said than done and it takes a while to start believing it but believe me a step in the right direction is better than no step at all.

You are loved, valued and important!